Knowing right from wrong…

Greetings Love!!!

I have been practicing releasing ALL judgement for a while now but especially as of late.  It’s something I’m aware I had to do for my own wellness and sanity!!

This is the message that came through this morning regarding our limited thinking about what what is ‘right’ and ‘wrong’.

Here it is…I hope it’s helpful.

There is nothing inherently right or wrong with anything or anyone.  It’s your thoughts and ill judgements about yourself and your Brother (others) that make it seem that way.  You are certainly committed to your ideas about how you see the world!!

Something that feels right for you is not necessarily right for someone else..  Even if something that apparently feels right for someone else feels wrong for you, it’s still neither right or wrong for everyone.  That would be impossible!

Simply follow your own inner Guidance as to what is most appropriate and helpful in any given situation.  When your inner guidance is the result of your choice for Love not fear you don’t need to worry about the rest.    Just go on enjoying your day!!

In Love. ❤



I am happy and grateful for the opportunity to be of help.


Peace First


When I am experiencing challenge and chaos and looking for Guidance  as to what to ‘do’ about it, I’ve learned it is so helpful when I remember to go to Peace First.

I know, I know,  I can hear you saying “Yeah right!!, How’ do I do that?    Especially when my world appears FAR from peaceful!”

To begin with you need to be willing to go against the ‘norm’.

In A Course in Miracles Lesson 33 the idea is:

There is another way of looking at the world.  – Today’s idea is an attempt to recognize that you can shift your perception of the world in both it’s outer and inner aspects.

And in the next Lesson 34:

I could see peace instead of this. – The idea for today begins to describe the conditions that prevail in the other way of seeing.  Peace of mind is clearly an internal matter.  It must begin with your own thoughts, and then extend outward.  It is from your peace of mind that a peaceful perception of the world arise.


I’ve noticed it’s become the ‘norm’  to  think we need to fix or change the conditions and circumstances first in order for us to feel any semblance of the Peace we desire.

We’ve all been there in some form….

You’ll clean the house, clear the clutter, rearrange the furniture end a relationship, stop spending time with ‘toxic people’, quit drinking and eating food that you’ve heard is ‘bad’ for you, start exercising, yoga, read a spiritual self help book,   etc. etc. etc.

And you find that it works….for a while.

That clean room feels so nice to be in.  You are happy to be free of that person who had a knack for ticking you off and pushing your buttons.     You feel good about your new healthy eating and exercise (when you do it.)   Life is generally GOOD.

Then you realize one day you wake up and the clutter mysteriously has come back, you are feeling overwhelmed AGAIN, the list of things to do keeps growing,  you still have moments you are impatient, angry, guilty, defeated….far from Peaceful .

You cry out “Stop the world I want to get off!”

I know…I hear you…I’ve been there.  (Still go there on occasion but don’t stay there long anymore.)  

I’ve found that’s EXACTLY what’s needed….to STOP and return to Peace.

In case you’ve forgotten here’s a reminder  –

Your natural state is Peace.    Your true Identity behind all you think you are is LOVE.  You are Holy, Perfect, Loving and Lovable.   

What I’ve found happens when I stop, quiet my mind and allow myself to return to the awareness of Peace and my true Self;  is that the circumstances, people and the physical world transforms.

You might still clean your house, do Yoga, eat well, go to the gym, end a relationship (or begin a new one), quit drinking so much, or not….

But you won’t be doing or not doing any of these things to have peace.    You will do what you are guided and inspired to do because you are Peace, and the act of going there helps you remember your true Self.   

From the awareness of PEACE, all you do you do with Joy and Love – in a state of Peace.

I invite you to simply experiment with this idea.

I’ve gained a deeper understanding, Love and appreciation for myself and others in this state of Peace.   Life and time together with ‘others’  is so much fun and playful!  I find that I laugh more too, and I love to laugh!    I feel at ONE with everyone and everything.  Ideas and Guidance pops in more easily.

You occasionally might find yourself back in that chaotic “un-peaceful” place, but it’s ok.   There’s nothing wrong.  It’s all perfect as it is.

There may be times when feeling Peace is uncomfortable.  It’s just because you’ve temporarily forgotten how safe it is.    Be honest and gentle with yourself.

You can choose to return to Peace anytime you want, as you are ready.

I’ve shared an excerpt from the Peace First handout from Pathways of Light courses to further support you.

And if you have questions or a would like support from me leave a comment below.

Your questions and insights are helpful to us all as we awaken together.


 PEACE FIRST  (from Pathways of Light)

In all your thinking and doing in the world, there is nothing more important than peace.

If you notice that you are not feeling peaceful, you have the right to say:  “Stop the world, I want to get off.”

You never need to go on with tension leading the way.

You always can stop, no matter what is happening, and allow yourself to return to peace.

Peace transforms all thoughts and activities.  When the feeling of peace has returned, you put Inner Wisdom in charge instead of following ego’s direction.

The peace of your true Self creates miracles every day and every moment.

Continuing the tension and fear of the world is not helpful.  A willingness to lay it down is the only way out of pain and suffering and limitation of any kind.

Let peace be your guide.       Let peace come first.

An opening to peace leaves the door open to hear the guidance of your Higher Self.  Once that door is open, the knowing is clear, the direction is clear and the pathway is simple, unclouded by ego’s decoys which divert us from the truth.

Laying down tension and replacing it with peace is always a valid agenda.  It paves the way for hearing the Voice of Inner Wisdom again.

Nothing needs come before peace.     Nothing is more important than peace.

Peace prepares you to receive the wisdom of your real Self.

Peace is your greatest ally, the greatest gift in your life.

Peace paves the way for the true knowing of Spirit’s plan for you.

So let peace come first as a facilitator of your life, your awakening, your return Home.

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Wishing for a Joyfully Simple Christmas this year


I’m finding myself really resisting the ‘hustle and bustle’ that ordinarily comes with the Christmas season.

This can be a stressful time, especially when there are challenges in relationships with family members and others.

The expectations and judgements just seem to be magnified when we let ourselves get caught up in what seems to be important. Those judgements are what make us feel separate from one another.

It all can feel so complicated.

I am feeling drawn to the simple things lately and in the coming year. But I am realizing that the holiday season is the perfect opportunity to come back to love, which is in Reality the simplest thing of all. That is when we are willing to let go of all we thought to be important and true about others, about events, seasons, circumstances…everything. So for today, in this moment at least, I choose to see beyond the vail of perception and illusion with the eyes of love.

I hope you find ways to enjoy a Joyfully, Simple and Peaceful Christmas



How my Dad’s Overbearing Ways Helped me Find my Life’s Purpose

“A good teacher clarifies his own ideas and strengthens them by teaching them.  Teacher and Pupil are alike in the learning process.  They are in the same order of learning, and unless they share their lessons, conviction will be lacking. A good teacher must believe in the ideas he teaches, but he must meet another condition; he must believe in the students to who he offers the ideas.” A Course in Miracles

This brings to mind a couple thoughts for me:

  1.  My resistance to putting myself out there as a “Spiritual Teacher”
  2. The memory of my father’s egocentric desire to be smarter than those of us he felt the need to teach AND the desire of his heart (his True nature) to encourage and raise people up to what’s possible for them.

    This is Dad on one of his many adventures.

    This is Dad on one of his many adventures.

Of course the two thoughts are related.

Come with me as we explore how the very thing that I spent a good part of my life emotionally charged about  was an integral piece in beautifully preparing me for my life’s work.

And How I came to be in the position of Helping YOU Find Your Life’s Purpose

I do believe, like myself , Dad  had the Sacred Gift of Encouragement.   It’s the supernatural ability to be a trusted confidante, a good listener, trusted by others and a remarkable encourager.   He was also an avid reader and gifted Teacher.  And with many others his pure intentions came through and he helped miracles of healing to take place.  As is what happens when our gifts are being expressed through us.

But with me his ego (and mine) got in the way of me receiving the teaching he offered so generously – at least that’s what I thought.  God knows there were many times I did my best to prevent him from ‘teaching’ me when he was living.  It’s only now that I fully appreciate what I learned from him AND what we had in common.   I suppose it’s like when my own children demonstrate something that I intended to “teach” them.  It didn’t  appear to me that they were listening and willing to learn at the time but then when I least expected it I hear my words of wisdom come out of their mouths – Often as their own wisdom offered back to me.

I am remembering the day I took Dad to the VA Hospital in St. Pete for tests.    We were in the waiting room between rounds of testing.  I don’t remember what we were in conversation about; probably some current events, history or politics (his favorite subjects).   Well as he so often did he “fell into” his teaching mode.    Though in the past I had deflected the ideas he had to share with me, in that moment I allowed myself to consider it and let it sink in.   He must have noticed my receptivity because with great satisfaction he said “I guess I can still teach you something.”

It was a demonstration of him living his life’s purpose.  As I sat there with my father allowing him to be who he was and do what he did so naturally, I felt my own ego fall away and allowed myself to be there with him as who I am, a willing and receptive student of life, and a deep listener.  It was a brief but eternal moment of two souls learning together.  In that moment we were equals, one with each other and with God.

Now, we come upon my resistance in putting myself out there as a teacher; especially a Spiritual Teacher.  Who am I to be a teacher?  My fear was of appearing to be smarter ‘smarty pants’, wiser than ‘know it all’, above ‘superior to’ others.  In terms of our true nature I know I am no better than anyone else.    We are each Special but not one of us any more ‘special’ than the other.

But as my friend Gary Steele (a gifted teacher himself)  often says; “In the land of the blind, the one eyed man is king.”   I know that I too have wisdom and gifts to offer others who are in a different place along their journey.

I do so ‘believe in the students to whom I offer ideas.’ AND as I coach and teach, I am learning alongside them.   I am very clear that there is no “I am right and you are wrong” ultimately. Each perspective has value.   What I felt with Dad very often was I am ‘wrong’, ‘less than’, ‘inferior’, ‘not enough’.   Of course I don’t want to make others feel the pain of that.  

But if I am to put myself out there as a Spiritual Teacher and share ideas with confidence and the intention to help others evolve then I run the risk of them feeling the same way I felt with Dad.

Ultimately however, it’s not my job to control how others feel and react to the ideas I share.

And I don’t know exactly how any experience will serve them in the unfolding of their own life’s purpose – But I know that every experience will serve them.

My experience of my dad certainly served in me living my life’s purpose; as it motivated me to lift people up to be their true self, realize their own brilliance and live their own life’s purpose.    It was Dad’s confidence in the ideas he shared, being willing to show up as ‘arrogant’ at times that helped me own my role as Spiritual Teacher.

So who am I to teach?   Well, who am I not to?   For if I don’t and I hold back from fear I rob those around me from experiencing the miracles that are possible for them.    And I certainly do not want to rob them of that.”

Coaching Call to Action:

  1.  Go to your ‘sacred space’, center yourself and reflect on what purposeful work you are being called to do or the work you are doing right now that feels in alignment with who you are authentically.
  2. Open your heart to remember those experiences, relationships or events that helped prepare and equip you for this work.
  3. Share below- your sharing will help inspire and free others in the process.


Love and Blessings,



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